Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts

Friday, November 19, 2010

Film Ratings, Violence, Nudity, Blue Valentine, Changing a Culture... My Mumblings...

There are three films I wante to see at NOFF (Mew Orleans Film Festival) in October. Welcolme to the Riley's, 127 Hours and Blue Valentine (ok 4, Black Swan but I don't think it finally got added to the list) Sadly, I didn't get to see them all because I was headed to Vegas for my 30th birthday and the timing overlapped.


There has been good buzz about all these movies, but one that has been a hot topic lately is Blue Valentine staring Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams. The MPAA has given it a NC17 rating because of a particular love scene which they deem to be inapproporiate.

This idea of ratings is always of interest to me because, for one, I think the MPAA does a shitty job of it in many cases. I have gone into a movie with my daughter and left having to explain a number of things I wouldn't have wanted to discuss to a 7 year old, just yet.

I find in American culture, violence, especially against women, is too accepted in film, whereas nudity is not. Somehow blowing up someone's head is ok, but boobs are not? What is so wrong about sensuality but ok with torturous violence?


In Canada, however, nudity is far more accepted, in fact, you can catch it on regular cable late evenings, whereas violence is less acceptable. There is, in particular, rules against showing violence against women. So lot's of boobs and less blowing up of body parts.

In Europe, similar to Canada, there is more acceptance in showing nudity, there are commercials for skin lotion that hage nude women demonstrating!


My point is this, WHY IS INTIMACY AND NUDITY FROWNED UPON AND VIOLENCE AND TORTURE ACCEPTABLE?

@Larry411 tweeted press release where TWC Co-Chair Harvey Weinstein discusses the issue:

“While we respect the MPAA, I think we can all agree that we are living with an outdated ratings system that gives torture porn, horror and ultraviolent films the same rating as films with so-called inappropriate language,” explains Weinstein.


I could not agree more!!!

I have not seen Blue Valentine yet, but I know quite a few that have and they agree that an NC17 seems harsh. Furthermore, those involved in the film disagree with the rating and are fighting it. The debate (and the rating) is based on one love scene.

BLUE VALENTINE, starring Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams, in a film already acclaimed by critics, tells the honest and personal story of a troubled marriage, and yet apparently drew an NC-17 due to one scene, a sexually intimate sequence between a married couple trying to repair their broken relationship


Lainey writes:

So you know about this business with the MPAA. Blue Valentine has been given an NC17 rating because of a sex scene between a married couple that they feel is too real. Not in the porn sense or anything, I mean it’s not like you can study her labia, but these people, they share an intense, and frustrating, and very emotionally authentic moment. This is apparently much more offensive than seeing a woman violated in an action film.

The Weinstein Company is appealing the decision. In support of the appeal, the film’s two leads have offered their comments. Read Ryan Gosling’s position, and then try to convince me you can still stand up.

“You have to question a cinematic culture which preaches artistic expression, and yet would support a decision that is clearly a product of a patriarchy-dominant society, which tries to control how women are depicted on screen. The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario, which is both complicit and complex. It’s misogynistic in nature to try and control a woman’s sexual presentation of self. I consider this an issue that is bigger than this film.”

Please. How many other men can turn you on in a WRITTEN STATEMENT?

Here’s what Michelle Williams had to say:

“The MPAA’s decision on Blue Valentine unmasks a taboo in our culture, that an honest portrayal of a relationship is more threatening than a sensationalized one. Mainstream films often depict sex and violence in a manner that is disturbing and very far from reality. Yet, the MPAA regularly awards these films with a more audience friendly rating, enabling our culture’s desensitization to violence, rape, torture and brutality. Our film does not depict any of these attributes. It’s simply a candid look at the difficulties couples face in sustaining their relationships over time. Blue Valentine opens a door for couples to have a dialogue about the everyday realities of many relationships. This film was made in the spirit of love, honesty and intimacy. I hope that the MPAA will hear our pleas and reconsider their decision.”



First, I agree, Gosling makes me hot with written words, spoken words, a smile, a still photo, gah!

Second, I hope they examine this rating (and all ratings for that matter) and resolve it.

There needs to be clearer guidelines on the ratings. I think if they can rate a love scene NC17 and beating up a woman PG-13 then there is a serious issue in the system!

Ultimately, I will watch what I want, regardless of the rating, but there are many who do not and I think the rating system should be a more accurate depiction of the film's content.

Moreover, I think re-examining socities views and perspective on what is acceptable and what is not should be a more important goal, but clearly this task is larger than one movie or one lawsuit. It is a change in culture and an attempt to eliminate or lessen the desensitization society experiences because of the overload of violence and aggression in film.



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Friday, August 6, 2010

Love the Way You Lie - Eminem and Rihanna music video starring Dominic Monaghan and Megan Fox looks at Domestic Violence

When I first heard "Love the way you lie" I was shocked to hear Eminem rapping / collaborating with Rihanna. The lyrics are powerful and today when I saw the video for the first time I was overwhelmed.

It's a controversial video - some claim it glorifies domestic abuse, maybe so - but for me it is a powerful message of how the good can go bad and once it does there is no escape, just repetition. I have witnessed VERY close friends experience this cycle and it pains me to know so many women allow it to continue over and over.

Dominic Monaghan and Megan Fox star in the video that showcases the downward spiral and repitious pattern domestic abuse too often takes.

Nilva said the video is especially potent because of Eminem's and Rihanna's personal histories with violence or abuse. "Eminem's history is ...as someone who sings a lot about violence," she said. "And Rihanna's experience [is] as someone who was abused by Chris Brown."

That history, she added, is what will make people look at the video and see "that the message is not 'Don't you want a relationship like mine?' The message is a warning sign."

During the four-minute span of "Love The Way You Lie," Rihanna alternately sneers in the frame and seems to physically diminish before finally crumbling to the ground in front of the burning house that serves as her backdrop throughout. The images may be melodramatic but symbolically, they are accurate, according to Nilva. "Someone who is victimized in a relationship does become smaller, does lose their power and their strength."

"I think we tried as hard as we could to not glorify the violence, to try and explain that this was a relationship that is by no means ideal and a relationship that probably should have ended a lot sooner than it did," Monaghan told MTV News recently. "The concept of 'Love the Way You Lie' was essentially a look at the relationship that Eminem was in with his wife, Kim, so I kind of felt like I was playing Eminem a little bit, and Megan Fox was kind of playing Kim.

"It's the story of them getting to know each other, and it's the story of their tumultuous relationship, and it was the story of the breakdown of their relationship," he continued. "Ultimately, what I think he's trying to say in the song ... is that he should have walked away a little bit quicker than he did and not let it get as messy as it did."

Personally, I can see how some may view it as glorification of domestic abuse since it stars two hot young actors with a lot of passion, however, the message they try to convey is strong and with discussion, young viewers will realize this is NOT a life to live and not acceptable behaviour... sadly, by the time relationships get to this stage, it is difficult to break free, as shown in the video and as witnessed and experienced by many people I know.

Here is the video if you haven't seen it:




Here are the lyrics if you need them:

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

I can't tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now there's a steel knife
In my windpipe
I can't breathe
But I still fight
While I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right
It's like I'm in flight
High of a love
Drunk from the hate
It's like I'm huffing paint
And I love it the more that I suffer
I sufficate
And right before im about to drown
She resuscitates me
She fucking hates me
And I love it
Wait
Where you going
I'm leaving you
No you ain't
Come back
We're running right back
Here we go again
It's so insane
Cause when it's going good
It's going great
I'm Superman
With the wind in his bag
She's Lois Lane
But when it's bad
It's awful
I feel so ashamed
I snap
Who's that dude
I don't even know his name
I laid hands on her
I'll never stoop so low again
I guess I don't know my own strength

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

You ever love somebody so much
You can barely breathe
When you're with them
You meet
And neither one of you
Even know what hit 'em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills
Used to get 'em
Now you're getting fucking sick
Of looking at 'em
You swore you've never hit 'em
Never do nothing to hurt 'em
Now you're in each other's face
Spewing venom
And these words
When you spit 'em
You push
Pull each other's hair
Scratch, claw, bit 'em
Throw 'em down


Get Recovery by Eminem-



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